One Subtle Technique All Extraordinary Pole Dancers Practice
I'm officially moved into my new house. Everything is unpacked and I’m now in the settling phase...the phase where you start to get a feel for the house, the yard, the trees - you know what I'm talking about...every house, every apartment has its own feeling.
The feeling of this house pleases me. In a quiet moment yesterday and again this morning I noticed the hum of a train in the distance. I like the feeling that sound gives me.
"That feeling that sound gives me." That feeling that sound gives me is what? It's a quiet stirring inside my gut that feels right.
I do this all the time. It’s so ingrained I barely notice it anymore.
I practice the habit of finding good feelings in small things. Like, really small things that most don’t notice or care about. It keeps my mind right and above grievances.
Some may think it negligable to find joy in seemingly meaningless sights and sounds but to that I say, "What else is there?" Besides, if I cannot find joy in myself, in the details of my surroundings, no other good can come to me.
I’d be perpetually waiting around for someone or something before I can feel good. Boring.
Many times over my years of teaching I’ve heard students complain about things in class. Reasons why they can’t focus or why they can’t get into their dance (what do you mean you can’t twerk to “Whip It”?? Blasphemer.)
Yeah, I get it. There’s always gonna be something that bugs you or a reason why you can’t feel good. And this is exactly the reason why most – yes MOST – pole dancers aren’t where they want to be in their practice: they allow “reasons” to get in front of their success.
Guess what? Those gals you look up to and wanna be like on the pole don’t let “reasons” get in the way of their dreams.
That’s why they are where they are.
So what if you can’t get down to metal? If that is what your teacher is playing that day, I say that you might as well get on board with some aspect of that music so that you aren’t squandering an opportunity to become a better dancer.
And if you can’t find something to connect with in the music, find something – anything – that you like in that classroom. Keep a photo on your phone’s wallpaper that you like in case of emergency situations.
Something that makes you feel something warm and fuzzy or at least somewhat pleasant. Switch the direction of your energy so that you can harness the circuitry of the positive energy flow. See what I mean? It’s to your benefit to do this.
When you’re riding the wave of “I hate this song” what kinds of feelings do you think you’re generating in your body?
You’re doing that.
You think you’re gonna bang out some good trick passes on that shit energy? In my experience, irritation and excuse-laden vibes never yield good results.
Like attracts like. If I am full of contentment, it is the end-game, it is the purpose of life because I feel good.
A happy side result of this is that bigger and even more good-feeling and prosperous situations will be drawn to me. Love breeds Love. Success breeds success. The better it gets, the better it gets.
Everything starts with something teeny-tiny.
Next time you’re in class feeling some type of way about a trick, a song, your period, your lack of grip, change your focus. I’m not saying trick yourself into liking whatever it is you’re hating on, just take your attention off the blasted thing and find something that feels better to you.
An idea: look at yourself in the mirror and see where you are. You’re not doing so bad, kid.