5 Things Holding You Back From Starting Pole Dance (but shouldn't)


Are you still on the fence about trying a pole dance class?

Well, get off the fence and get on the pole, dang it!

Whatever reasons your brain is coming up with as to why you shouldn’t just pull the trigger and sign up, there are a ton more reasons that you should.  I’ve made a list of the top 5 reasons people have for not walking in to that first pole dance class and I’m going to tell you why you shouldn’t believe in these limitations.

You’re very smart, but your reasons are dumb. #sorrynotsorry.

You’re very smart, but your reasons are dumb. #sorrynotsorry.

5 reasons people think they can’t pole dance:

  1. I’m too overweight/out of shape.

  2.  I lack coordination.

  3.  I’m about as sexy as a Banana Slug.

  4. I don’t have the time to take classes.

  5. I will look/feel ridiculous.


Now, it’s time to smash each one of those reasons (aka, excuses):

1.    The only way to change something you don’t like is to do something about it.

Pole fitness is a full-body workout and has a multitude of physical benefits. The more classes you attend, the more of a change you will begin to see in your physique.

Also, I’m just going to mention here that there are plenty of plus-size pole dancers that perform, compete, teach and have a blast being exactly who they are on the pole. So, you can be overweight and stay at home alone or you can be overweight dancing on a pole to bomb AF, loud music under sexy lighting with a bunch of other fun-loving gals.

2.    Coordination is something that you can develop by taking pole dance classes.

If this weren’t the case, I would literally be out of a job. What do you think us teachers do for a living? We teach people how to dance. Uncoordinated people are some of our best students, mmkay?! Most people - even those that are more naturally coordinated - feel awkward at first because they are doing something brand new and strange to their bodies. This excuse is officially cancelled. Next.

3.    Being “sexy” is a misunderstood concept.

In my business as a pole dance instructor, I interface with many different types of women everyday; my customers run the gamut from those comfortable exhibiting their sexuality and love dressing and feeling sexy, to those that want to revel in this feeling they hear so much about, yet feel intimidated by it and that they could never be sexy because “it’s just not who they are.” 

This hazy and indistinct concept of being “sexy” is really not as out-of-reach and unattainable as they think – and when they shift their perception a bit as to what being sexy actually is, a whole new world of possibility opens up.

Everyone has their own preferences and definitions of what is sexy, but if one had to boil it down to some key characteristics, what could some of those qualities include? 

When I think of a person that is sexy, to me it is an energetic and electric quality they possess – their ability to be big, be playful, be loose – in other words, they allow themselves (and others) to be themselves unabashedly.

When I think of sexiness, the word “overt” almost always comes to mind – and by overt, I’m talking about being true to and overt in exactly who one is in the moment. 

It’s about allowing an opening up of oneself to whatever is being felt in the moment.  It’s about allowing oneself to be vulnerable to exactly who they are in any given moment without shame. 

If you feel that being sexy is “out of your league” or an impossible goal, I invite you to rethink that belief.  Instead of trying to be sexy, how about shifting the focus a bit and instead try to allow yourself to be free and playful and vulnerable?  

Pole studios are the perfect place to dabble in this concept of vulnerability because the women that run studios are (for the most part) very comfortable with these aspects in themselves. And when you surround yourself with women like that, guess what happens? That energy rubs off on you big time.

4.    As with most things in life, if something is important to you, then you will make time to enjoy it.

 It’s all about self-care, people. You carve out time to brush your teeth and take showers, right? If it’s important enough to you, you’ll do it. Maybe it’s just not a priority - and if that’s the case, own that instead of saying you don’t have time.

5.    You are asking your body to do stuff that it’s never done before, so it’s not unheard of to feel a bit awkward at first.

The good news is that as you get more comfortable with the moves and techniques taught, the more they will become a part of you and the more confident you will become. Chances are, your fellow students all feel (or have felt) exactly the same way.

You’ve got to stop expecting the impossible from yourself. You’ve got to start letting go of having to feel good or perfect all the time. You’re going to feel awkward. Is that the worst thing in the world? For more on this topic, read my blog post “How To Not Suck At Being A Beginner”.

It's okay to let your guard down and do something fun for yourself with a group of kind and accepting people. PS: Your excuses are dead to me and I’ll see you in class.

It's okay to let your guard down and do something fun for yourself with a group of kind and accepting people. PS: Your excuses are dead to me and I’ll see you in class.